Author: Pia de Solenni

What Women Want: Romney Leads Obama

An outside observer, say an anthropologist hundreds of years from now, might survey the evidence of our conversations and conclude that women were only concerned about their genital regions. Look…

An outside observer, say an anthropologist hundreds of years from now, might survey the evidence of our conversations and conclude that women were only concerned about their genital regions. Look no further than the so-called war on women, just another version of pelvic politics. You know, abortion, contraception, abortion, and, oh yes,  abortion. As if women have no other concerns.

Well, a USA Today/Gallup poll now shows Gov. Romney taking the lead over Pres. Obama precisely because more women are opting for the Governor. In other words, women think about more than contraception and abortion, even those who support either or both. They think about the economy, national security, education, religious freedom, and a whole host of other things.

“In every poll, we’ve seen a major surge among women in favorability for Romney” since his strong performance in the first debate, veteran Democratic pollster Celinda Lake says. “Women went into the debate actively disliking Romney, and they came out thinking he might understand their lives and might be able to get something done for them.”

I’m encouraged and hope that this could be a sign of expanding the conversation when it comes to women’s issues. Also, it’ll be interesting to see the debates tonight to see which questions women ask the candidates and how they interact with them.

 

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Yes, We Can

Over the past few months, I’ve participated in several events on the topics of religious freedom and faithful citizenship. Repeatedly, I’ve been asked what Catholics can do to promote conversations…

Over the past few months, I’ve participated in several events on the topics of religious freedom and faithful citizenship. Repeatedly, I’ve been asked what Catholics can do to promote conversations about voting in line with one’s professed Catholic faith. There’s a general sense out there that the laity can’t say or do much unless an effort is spearheaded by a pastor or a bishop. This is just another face of clericalism, but more on that another time.

It’s true that there are no specific action items from the USCCB or many individual bishops right now. That doesn’t mean that the laity can’t or shouldn’t get involved with local efforts, even within the parishes. And it’s certainly not right for us to sit back and wait for “someone else,” whether a cleric or not, to organize something.

Here are some quick ideas:

  1. Voter Registration. This should be done earlier than now, but there’s still time to register voters in some states. So long as you pastor agrees, this can be done at your parish. The Knights of Columbus have organized this in some parishes. Priests For Life also has some good resources for this. Statistically, people who attend religious services overwhelmingly vote pro-life, pro-family; sadly, many of these church goers are still unregistered to vote. [Update – You can also register to vote at CatholicVote.org. And they have a feature where you can consult a public database to see if your friends and family are registered. In other words, you don’t even need a bunch of voter registration forms. Just set up your laptop or tablet (with a wi-fi connection of some sort), and you’re set to go. You could even register yourself or someone from a smart phone!]
  2. Ask your pastor if the one-pager from the USCCB, “Current Threats To Religious Liberty,” can be used as a bulletin insert during the month of October. Better yet, see if he’s willing to preach on it or volunteer to organize several lay people who would read it at the end of Mass during the announcements. This is the same flyer from the Fortnight for Freedom, but it has been updated even though the top still reads “Summer 2012.” If your parish is cash strapped, offer to pay for the printing costs.
  3. Organize a discussion group at your parish or elsewhere in your community, even an informal potluck with friends, to discuss the upcoming elections and the importance of voting. Many states have critical issues on their local ballots. The redefinition of marriage is on the ballot in Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, and Washington.
  4. Pray. I’ve seen a lot of informal prayer campaigns starting up around the country. Find one of those to participate in or start your own. Many parishes are organizing a day of Adoration and prayer for November 6. You can help to bring this about in your parish if it’s not already happening.

Catholic teaching is clear that we have an obligation to vote. (CCC 2240) I’ll be writing more about this obligation and the role of conscience in the next few days.

It’s important that we do everything we can to vote ourselves and to motivate others to vote as well. Feel free to add your own suggestions in the comments section. By no means are the above suggestions the only viable ones.

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Responding To Akin: When Pro-Lifers Do The Work For Abortion Advocates

I think I’m going out on a limb here, but I’m a little surprised at the reaction to Rep. Todd Akin’s idiotic and unfortunate remarks on “legitimate rape” and the…

I think I’m going out on a limb here, but I’m a little surprised at the reaction to Rep. Todd Akin’s idiotic and unfortunate remarks on “legitimate rape” and the theory that rape victims’ bodies somehow protect them from getting pregnant as a result of the attack.

All of us say (and do!) stupid things at one time or another. Unfortunately, more of us are caught saying them now that media are omnipresent. And politicians seem to say more than their share of things that shouldn’t have been said, as our Vice President appears all too happy to demonstrate time and again.

But Akin has a 100% voting record from the Family Research Council and the National Right to Life Committee, meaning that he’s a 100% against abortion and 100% pro-life. If you want to go after people who are pro-abortion, look no further than Catholics for Obama or Emily’s List.

Instead, people like the editors at National Review Online and others (cf. Dennis Pragerand Ann Coulter), are taking their cues from The New York Times and NPR, calling for Akin to step out of the Senate race in Missouri. In other words, those who claim to support pro-life causes are essentially making this a bigger issue than it should be.

The NYT ran a story yesterday, “Health Experts Dismiss Assertions on Rape.”

Here’s a quote from the first expert:

“There are no words for this — it is just nuts,” said Dr. Michael Greene, a professor of obstetrics, gynecology and reproductive biology at Harvard Medical School.

Shouldn’t an expert be able to point to hard facts? Maybe a study or two? Instead, “it is just nuts.” Thanks for the expert opinion.

Here’s the second expert:

Dr. David Grimes, a clinical professor in obstetrics and gynecology at the University of North Carolina, said, that “to suggest that there’s some biological reason why women couldn’t get pregnant during a rape is absurd.”

Wow. Passing his exams must be easy. His students just have to give opinions. No science here, folks. Just keep on driving. Nothing to see.

The only reference to a reputable study? Here you go:

But several experts said there is no solid data on such issues. A 1996 study in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, generally considered one of the few peer-reviewed research efforts on this subject, estimated that 5 percent of rapes result in pregnancy.

To say that there’s no solid data is not the same thing as refuting a theory. The rate of births among women of fertile age is about 6%. Adjusting for miscarriage, still birth, and abortions, would make the pregnancy rates higher. The one study offering a 5% rate of pregnancy resulting from rape is hardly conclusive one way or the other.

Interestingly, when searching the terms “nytimes.com stress infertility,” The first ten articles, all from the NYT, included seven which suggested a link between the ability to get pregnant and stress. One article proclaimed no such link. Two were irrelevant.WebMD offers references to several articles supporting a connection between infertility and stress.

Now, if women trying to get pregnant are impeded by stress and the associated hormone factors, I don’t think it’s a far stretch to wonder if women who are raped might have a lesser rate of pregnancy resulting from the rape. After all, being the victim of a violent crime would be stressful, to say the least.

With regard to the use of the term “legitimate rape,” it’s a bad, bad choice of words which belies all sorts of confusion since terms like “date rape” were introduced. It’s either rape or it’s not. If it’s rape, it’s bad.

Is Akin a liability? Perhaps. But he becomes more of one when pro-lifers lead the attacks. If NPR and Mother Jones want to dissect Akin, by all means they can. There’s no secret about their ideological or political persuasions. [I don’t see how an editor at MJ is an expert on the question of conception rates for rape victims, but the experts themselves have set the bar pretty low judging from the NYT piece referenced above.] However, people who are supposed to be on the same side of the issues as Akin should not do the work of his opponents. If there are bigger liabilities than a really bad gaffe, then please enumerate them.

Aside – the whole situation makes all too clear just how defensive people can be when trying to defend a pro-life position. Rape has nothing to do with the human dignity of the fetus. Both the fetus and the mother deserve much better than rape, but neither of their lives is worth any less insofar as they are victims.

 

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Secretary Clinton Warns of Threats to Religious Freedom.

Today, the HHS Mandate went into effect for private businesses. And the U.S. State Department released its annual report on International Religious Freedom. Secretary Clinton gave remarks today. Funny thing. She didn’t…

Today, the HHS Mandate went into effect for private businesses.

And the U.S. State Department released its annual report on International Religious Freedom.

Secretary Clinton gave remarks today.

Funny thing. She didn’t mention anything about today’s start of the HHS Mandate.

 

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Give This Woman A Medal.

Seriously. Lou Xiaoying, an 88-year-old Chinese woman is credited with saving the lives of 30 children she found in dumpsters over the past forty years. Her work as a rubbish collector…

Seriously.

Lou Xiaoying, an 88-year-old Chinese woman is credited with saving the lives of 30 children she found in dumpsters over the past forty years. Her work as a rubbish collector put her in the right place at the right time. Her generosity should inspire us all.

But this story should also be used to highlight the atrocity of forced abortion in China, a story that seems to be gaining traction these days. I, for one, never thought I’d see a headline like “Forced abortions, broken hearts,” in any major US newspaper, much less above the fold on the front page. I’m guessing USA Today surprised a lot of us, regardless of which side of the abortion debate we happen to hold. In the past, these all-too-true stories have been told only by pro-life publications.

So, here’s a thought. Why not honor Lou Xiaoying for her heroic life given in service to those considered nothing more than garbage? It would be a great way to highlight the abuses perpetuated by UNFPA in its support of China’s policy of forced abortion and forced sterilization. And it’s a powerful reminder of the lives directly impacted by such measures.

 

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“Fifty Shades of Grey.” More Like Fifty Types of Denial.

I’ve received several questions via email about a new erotic trilogy called Fifty Shades of Grey, a story about a young college woman (and a virgin) who enters into a…

I’ve received several questions via email about a new erotic trilogy called Fifty Shades of Grey, a story about a young college woman (and a virgin) who enters into a contract with a businessman whereby he has total control of her life while she participates in a submissive sexual relationship with him. The book takes place in Seattle (my current hometown) and involves explicit descriptions of sexual encounters including bondage and S&M.

Apparently, it’s become quite a hit and women everywhere are devouring (no pun intended) the series, including women of faith.

Some quick thoughts–

  1. You are what you eat. Garbage in, garbage out. The concern here isn’t so much about sexual mores as it is with personal well being. Just as we are deeply affected by what we eat, whether it be overall health, clothing size, or mental well being, so we are affected by the images and ideas that we introduce to ourselves. Consuming a steady diet of media content that is, well, less than uplifting, takes its effect. [See the movie Idiocracy for more on this. It’s not kid-friendly and f-bombs (sic) make up half of the dialogue, but it makes a great point. Consider it WALL-E for adults.]
  2. It’s hard to tell from our contemporary culture, but sex is meant to be something deeply personal and intimate. When we allow ourselves to be shaped by outside images and ideas, especially deficient ones, we end up denying our own experience of sex. We take someone else’s ideas, a stranger in this case, and make them part of our experience surrounding sexual intimacy. But they belong to someone else. They’re not something discovered in an intimate, trusting, and exclusive relationship. They’re imposed upon from without.
  3. The brain is the most powerful sex organ. In other words, this is just porn for women, porn that is easily consumed now that e-readers abound and no one has to know what another person is reading. It’s not that people shouldn’t have sexual thoughts, but rather how those experiences should occur and how they can be used constructively. Just as regular porn isolates and disconnects the consumer from reality, particularly the reality of love, so do erotic novels disconnect its readers (largely women) from the reality of relationship and love, two things that one hopes might have something to do with each other.
  4. Escapism doesn’t work. The women enjoying Fifty Shades appear to be doing what most of us do when we enjoy media or read a book: taking a break from our busy (often troubled) lives and escaping into someone else’s story. That’s human nature and it’s not necessarily a bad thing. But, let’s face it, marriages and other relationships are under a lot of stress today. When we need to take a break from them, we need something that’s going to give us the strength to get back out there and work (fight?) for what we believe in. I’m not saying that our entertainment needs to be Pollyanna. But it should be constructive. Even in our escapes or breaks, we need to be able to experience something constructive. The last thing women need is to immerse themselves in a world where the heroine is abused, degraded, and not allowed to be her own person. Just because it’s “consensual” doesn’t mean it’s good for a woman.

It says a lot about our culture when so many women find their escape in an erotic novel in which there is clearly lacking a balance of power between the female and male protagonists, respectively. You’ve come a long way, baby, so far, in fact, that you’re further back than when you started. We used to call that denial.

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Text “Freedom”

  Fortnight For Freedom starts today! We’re beginning two weeks of prayer and events to create greater awareness about the current threats to religious freedom here in the United States….

 

Fortnight For Freedom starts today! We’re beginning two weeks of prayer and events to create greater awareness about the current threats to religious freedom here in the United States.

As part of a national effort to educate, the USCCB announced this morning a text campaign to create a network so that people of goodwill can stay informed on the latest news and projects concerning efforts to promote and defend our religious freedom.

Here’s how it works: Send a text to 377377 with either the word “freedom” or “libertad,” depending on whether you want your updates in English or Spanish. You’ll get an automatic response asking for your email and zip code. Then you’ll be connected to a network in solidarity with the bishops that will notify you to pray, learn and act on specific items.

I’m honored to be the opening speaker today at the Festival For Freedom, near Rochester, NY.

And I’ll try to post regularly on the Reflections offered by the USCCB. The reflections are available in English and Spanish. [My comments will be in English, maybe with a smattering of Italian.]

Today’s Reflection, from the Declaration on Religious Liberty (Dignitatis Humanae), n. 3, Dec. 7, 1965:

Further light is shed on the subject if one considers that the highest norm of human life is the divine law-eternal, objective and universal-whereby God orders, directs and governs the entire universe and all the ways of the human community by a plan conceived in wisdom and love. Man has been made by God to participate in this law, with the result that, under the gentle disposition of divine Providence, he can come to perceive ever more fully the truth that is unchanging. Wherefore every man has the duty, and therefore the right, to seek the truth in matters religious in order that he may with prudence form for himself right and true judgments of conscience, under use of all suitable means.

Truth, however, is to be sought after in a manner proper to the dignity of the human person and his social nature. The inquiry is to be free, carried on with the aid of teaching or instruction, communication and dialogue, in the course of which men explain to one another the truth they have discovered, or think they have discovered, in order thus to assist one another in the quest for truth. Moreover, as the truth is discovered, it is by a personal assent that men are to adhere to it.

Much could be said about these two paragraphs. Indeed, much has been said. But I’ll offer a couple of quick take away points in hopes that they’ll be of use.

  1. Life should make sense. There’s an order to everything. When we experience angst it’s usually because we know, at least on some level, that things are off kilter, that things are not as they should be. Every one of us — even those of us who claim to be the live-and-let-live type — has a sense within us of what should or should not be done. That’s evidence of the natural law written in our hearts, the law that allows us to participate with God. Like God, we are able to evaluate and judge things. Unlike God, we don’t always get it right. But it’s the very fact of being created in his image that makes it possible to take in nature and to see the order that should exist in it. That’s why varied cultures share similar values even when they don’t share religious beliefs. We share a participation in the natural law/order.
  2. In order to seek the truth, people should be free to do it. If they are coerced to believe something, then they don’t really believe it. They accept it because they have to, but it’s not part of their core belief. The Catholic Church has not always been the best example of honoring this fundamental right as John Paul II acknowledged in his apologies for the failings of the Church in the past. Yet, it’s the Catholic Church that has been a voice for the freedom of religion of those of other beliefs, particularly in the past hundred years.
  3. To know the truth, it must be taught and experienced. It’s a somewhat receptive process. We don’t determine truth for ourselves. We witness it in others, in study, in religious beliefs. We take that into ourselves and, in essence, decide that we want to be part of it because it resonates with our very being. It’s a personal process but that doesn’t mean that we come to it on our own or that we shouldn’t be involved in providing education so that we, with others, can come to know greater truth. It’s a personal work, not done alone.

 

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The Catholic League: Making The Latest Mommy War Worse

By now most people have heard about Hilary Rosen’s terrible choice of words in reference to Ann Romney on CNN Wednesday night. Rosen is a White House adviser and a…

By now most people have heard about Hilary Rosen’s terrible choice of words in reference to Ann Romney on CNN Wednesday night. Rosen is a White House adviser and a PR consultant which makes her choice of words all the more impactful.

If you didn’t, here’s the clip.

CNN has a complete transcript here.

When discussing Romney’s campaign and how/whether it’s reaching women, Rosen said,

What you have is Mitt Romney running around the country saying, well, you know, my wife tells me that what women really care about are economic issues. And when I listen to my wife, that’s what I’m hearing.

Guess what, his wife has actually never worked a day in her life. She’s never really dealt with the kinds of economic issues that a majority of the women in this country are facing in terms of how do we feed our kids, how do we send them to school and how do we — why do we worry about their future?

The statement was pretty bad, though she may indeed have not meant to come across the way that she did. But many people understood her to be attacking Ann Romney’s decision to be a stay at home mom and suggesting that is wasn’t real work. On the contrary, raising five children is more work than many many people are willing to do, as evidenced by widespread intentionally low birthrates.

Add to this that Ann Romney comes across as a lovely person and that she’s battled cancer and MS and you’ve got a major PR crisis.

But it gets better. (-Depends of course on what you mean by “better.”) The Catholic League responded with the following tweet:

Lesbian Dem Hilary Rosen tells Ann Romney she never worked a day in her life. Unlike Rosen, who had to adopt kids, Ann raised 5 of her own.

Ouch. Not only is this not Catholic in any way, shape, or form. It’s simply unnecessary. With whom Rosen chooses to share her bed has nothing to do with her statement on Ann Romney and her experience with economics. Additionally, are we now suggesting that there’s something unCatholic about adoption? If so, then we’re going to have to revisit the core of our theology which is divine filiation…which is to say a type of adoption.

The Catholic League has done a good job defending the Catholic Church on many issues. But the type of response exemplified in the above tweet makes the same fundamental communications error that Rosen made. It’s completely off message and ad hominem (ad mulierem, to be precise).

It also sounds hateful/spiteful, not unlike Rosen’s comments. And that’s another sign of bad communications strategy. When you start spewing negative emotion, any constructive (even if critical) message is lost.

To a casual observer, the takeaway from CL’s tweet is that the Catholic Church doesn’t like people who are attracted to the same sex. And that the Catholic Church doesn’t support adoption. Neither of these conclusions are true. Meanwhile, any commentary on Rosen’s remarks about Ann Romney is completely lost.

Some other thoughts on Rosen’s remarks –

1. Why does she assume that someone without professional experience can’t have valid opinions about economics? Plenty of women who are not economists and financial advisers do a fine job of managing family finances. And plenty of professionals (economists and others) have been terribly wrong about the economy.

2. I continue to meet interesting people who have a depth of knowledge beyond their professional or day-to-day occupations. Some of the smartest people I’ve known never went to college. It’s the height of just about every -ism to judge someone’s intellectual understanding based on a few outward assumptions about them.

3. As I wrote/tweeted yesterday, “Will someone with 5 small children at home please offer Hilary Rosen the opportunity to babysit for 24 hours? And let her pay your bills etc.”

 

 

 

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